There’s two types of anger one is dry and the other wet and basically wet anger is when your eyes water and your voice shakes and I hate that cause I feel weak when I’m crying while angry I like dry anger when your face is like stone and your voice is sharp I guess wet anger shows that you care too much and dry anger means you’re done.
"Can I wear dreads?"
People can wear whatever hairstyle they want.
I see that you have straight hair. I suggest you shave your head, since by your own logic, straight hair belongs to white people.
I mean seriously, why not? It’s just hair.
I mean seriously. No it’s not. The fact that you think our hair styles are just “hair” is exactly why it’s a problem. Some of us actually have culture behind the shit we do. And white people don’t own straight hair not does it have any cultural value.
White people gave up their claims to straight hair as a protected cultural value when they forced it (through law, through western concepts of professionalism, through media, through interpersonal microaggressions) on black men and women. You can even find a very recent example of this within the US Military.
When global majority people (the term I shall now be using to refer to poc given redhester’s insights found via genderheritic but note there are other opinions) are forced to take on white standards or risk societal rejection and/or financial disadvantage in a white supremacy local (it could be argued this is the entire world), they are allowed to take ownership and claim over what was forced upon them if they so choose. This is similar to the action of an oppressed individual reclaiming a slur; its usefulness as a liberation tactic debatable, but its righteous allowability unquestionable when the one determining is not oppressed. If reclaiming is not useful as a liberation tactic, it is for the oppressed to decide and to discuss how their community should proceed or if they even see a need to address it.
Yeah, as a white person you can have an opinion, but know that your opinion (particularly when it demonstrates lack of insight and knowledge) doesn’t matter. And that’s okay! It’s okay that your word isn’t gospel for once. I feel like us white people are so addicted to being valued in every average situation we encounter, being the center of attention in terms of your ability to relate to main narratives, all of this being further exacerbated by the “me generation” attitude. When you throw subconscious racism into the mix you see denial so aggressive it would make your head spin. Individual white people, you are not the center of the universe, and that’s okay!! It’s not bad. It shouldn’t be scary. It’s ok that your opinion isn’t the opinion that trumps all others. It’s okay that your opinion isn’t valuable in discussions like this. It’s okay that you can’t be the off-the-cuff expert. Just listen instead of thinking about yourself and your own perspective for once. Think about someone else’s, listen to someone else’s, someone who, dare I say it, isn’t white.
Never in history, as far as I’m aware, have black people forced white people to change their hair to fit black hair values and norms on a societal scale. On an individual scale maybe, but racism isn’t about individuals; it’s about societal systematic modes of oppression. For white people to take ownership and claim over black hairstyles (e.g., dreads), it is nothing more than theft aka cultural appropriation. There is no history that allows for this ownership; or, at the very least, there is no history that allows for this ownership by the majority of white people.
Also, how transparent: you shifted a conversation that was specifically about telling white people that is not okay for them to appropriate the hairstyles of black people and turned it into a conversation about “people.” The “people” you’re talking about are white people. You are trying to say white people can wear whatever hairstyle they want. And the fact of the matter is, if they want to be kind, empathetic, considerate, and just, no they can’t wear whatever hairstyle they want without care for the people who they steal that hairstyle from, without care for the black people who faced and face real and significant oppression because of the hairstyles they (i.e., a white person) want(s) to wear and appropriate.
Cultural appropriation is not acceptable in our current world. Maybe if we lived in a utopia where white people didn’t try to colonize the entire planet and rob it to suit their own selfish desires we could talk about things like “people.” But white people made a world of black and brown and red and yellow, they didn’t make a world of “people,” we can’t suddenly wish that away because you, an individual white person, want to demand sanction from a black woman on your right to wear dreads.
And I’m just realizing I’ve called you out before and am probably wasting my time. :(